The two kinds of guys who want another girl’s attention
Now here’s something you need to remember. Not all guys with girlfriends constantly look out for other girls to date or flirt with. But there are a few of them that you will come across now and then.
Here are the two kinds of guys who are generally interested in attracting other women outside the relationship.
1. A guy who’s doing it because it is fun
This is the kind of guy who knows he’s hitched with a girl but he also knows that he’s got what it takes to impress other girls and win their affection.
He uses his flirting skills for fun, and doesn’t try to seduce girls into falling in love with him. He’s like the Casanova who’s happy in a perfect relationship with his girlfriend, but likes the occasional attention from other girls.
2. A guy who’s uninterested in his relationship
This is the kind of guy who’s in a relationship, but not in love. He may have his own reasons for disliking his girlfriend or the relationship. And without realizing it himself, chances are, he may be falling in love with you too.
What do you want to do now?
So you know he’s taken, and yet you like him. So what do you do now? Here are three scenarios that you could choose from.
1. Do you want to win him over?
Now he’s dating someone else already, and it’s morally wrong to interfere with their relationship. But does he really like you? Would he be willing to leave his girlfriend for you? If you think so, you could steal him from his girlfriend.
2. Do you want to avoid complications and confusions?
If you don’t like complications and drama in your life, walk away. If you find out that a guy who’s trying to flirt with you already has a girlfriend, stop giving him attention. He’ll get bored of trying to catch your eye and give up soon.
3. Do you just want to have some fun?
Well, this is the middle path, and it’s reckless and fun. So the guy with a girlfriend is giving you attention and you’re flattered by it. You can continue to just have fun and flirt with him now and then, when you feel like it.
If you’re a bad girl who likes living flirty and dangerous, use him when you’re bored instead of letting him use you! But remember to avoid letting things go beyond harmless flirting or you may fall for him before you even realize it.
The last word of advice
It’s flattering when a guy who’s committed to a nice girl seems mesmerized by you. But don’t take these stares too seriously.
A committed guy may try to flirt with a girl for many reasons. He may think you’re attractive. He may want to convince himself that he’s still hot stuff who can get any girl he wants if he chooses to.
He may just want some excitement in his life. Or he may just be trying to have some fun when his girlfriend isn’t around, or using you to make his girl jealous.
If a guy with a girlfriend starts flirting with you and you really like him, back away from him to see what he does.
If he truly likes you and wants to end his existing relationship to be with you, he may continue to pursue you even after you cold-shoulder him. And if he asks you out or tells you he loves you, ask him to break up with his girlfriend and then make a commitment to you.
Flirting with a guy who has a girlfriend is all fun and dandy, until you fall for him or get into an illicit affair with him.
And then what do you get? You risk your neck out for him, and he may walk out of your life and go back into his girlfriend’s arms once your novelty’s worn off.
And you’d be back on square one. And to the rest of the world, you’d always be the bitchy girl who tried stealing a good girl’s boyfriend. You’d be the other woman. And that’s never a good place to be.