How to Get a Girl to Stop Flirting With Your Boyfriend


Was your night out ruined when another girl flirted with your boyfriend? Learn how to handle it!

Was your night out ruined when another girl flirted with your boyfriend? Learn how to handle it!

How to Tell a Girl to Back Off Your Man Nicely

You’ve probably had a friend or some random woman flirt with your boyfriend. Your instinct may be to go over and pull out her hair while screaming and slapping your boyfriend for noticing the attention-seeking fool in the first place! Unfortunately, if you do say something or act out in any way, then you look like the bad one—the jealous girlfriend—and it does not work out in your favour. But, if you say or do nothing at all, then it will just keep on happening until you lash out anyway!

Dealing With “Those Girls”

There is always going to be one of those girls at a party or an event; they’ll head straight for your boyfriend and make you angry. However, you can’t go around beating up on these girls because you will never win the situation.

Their aim is to flirt with the guy that caught their eye, and a lot of girls just do not get the message that he is taken and will continue to persist until they are noticed or have received a number. They do not care about you being there—and if you get angry, these girls will just laugh it off or want it even more!

How Attention-Seeking Girls Rain on Your Parade

There is nothing worse than taking two hours to have your hair done, putting on infinitely perfect make-up and finding an outfit that you will feel good in, only to have your boyfriend notice someone other than you! After all your efforts and time to look good, having some other girl rain on your parade does put a damper on the evening – and, in most cases, a few days more.

They always walk in as if the wind is blowing through their hair (extensions), smiling that bright, white smile, floating through the room as if they were at the Miss Universe pageant, laughing at nothing just to get noticed and batting their eyelids at every guy that will look. Their skimpy Pretty Woman mini and high heels draw attention to their assets as they flutter around all the guys, trying to convince each guy to give them something for free.

And, their most important duty for their night out is to be noticed by every guy possible, including the ones that are unavailable.

They See Unavailable Guys as a Fun Challenge

This is their challenge! They believe that every guy will like them and they are desirable to every man, especially ones that are attached. The aim is to make you and every other woman in the place feel less desirable because they have nothing else of value but their assets. The worst part of it all is that many guys fall for it because they are men, after all, and it is natural for them to look at a hot chick staring them into the imaginary bed!

Your boyfriend will look at her because he is forced to look at her, as she will probably be standing with her buddies, smiling and staring until they get his attention. The unfortunate part is that they get the signal that he is interested and move in for the kill.

Don’t let the attention-seekers rain on your parade.

The Situation

Once they have spotted the guy they want, they move in on them after they get the signal, which is a quick glance from your boyfriend.

He probably means no harm, and at the end of the night, he will be going home with the woman that he loves, but it doesn’t stop the humiliation of these girls coming over to chat while they wait for you to go to the ladies’ room.

The guys might mention that they have a girlfriend, and some may forget because of the forced flirtatious efforts of the other girl, and that leaves you feeling extremely angry on your return.

You can either walk up to her and slap her in the face, tear her extensions out, tell her with a few bad words to get lost, or you could just ignore it and give your boyfriend the silent treatment and the hate stare for the remainder of your messed up evening whilst you watch him like a hawk just in case he stares and notices her again.

She probably won’t even notice you or care to notice you and will continue to speak to your boyfriend just to show you that she can. Once she has a number, a free drink or a little bit of attention, she will leave, turning her head to give you the eye after she has achieved the goal of talking to the guy with the girlfriend.

This will anger you even more, and you will either lash out at your boyfriend, causing an argument that will leave her hopes of getting him to go home because you have given her the satisfaction of thinking that you are fighting about her, or you will end up going home and giving each other the silent treatment for a week, while she has moved on to the next guy.


The last thing that you want to do is argue over a girl that your boyfriend will now think you are jealous of or it will make you look like the jealous girlfriend.

It will cause a scene and make you look like the fool in the end so there are a few ways to beat the other girl by winning the situation and for this, you have to REMAIN CALM!

You look amazing, you felt amazing when you left the house because it took you so long to get ready. The makeup was perfect, the outfit was fantastic and your hair was done leaving you looking like a supermodel and you too had a bright smile when your boyfriend gave you the eye.

The only difference between you and those girls is that you are taken and devoted to one guy only so when you walk into the venue, your eyes are probably on the floor or focused on your man, but if you walked in making eye contact with every guy whilst smiling, you would also be the hot chick everyone notices, and you would be more desirable because you do not act easy to score. Desirable but untouchable because no guy likes to date the easy girl.

Remember: You’re the one your boyfriend will be going home with!

How to Beat the Other Girl

Firstly, remember that you look hot and every guy there would notice you! Your boyfriend is going home with you. You must not act like a jealous girlfriend who is threatened by the other girl.

  • Keep calm
  • Laugh it off
  • Stay confident

Keep in mind that she is there to score free drinks by any means necessary, and it is natural for your boyfriend to look.

If he is talking to her, perhaps he is just being polite

Don’t give her the attention that she wants because, at the end of the night, she is going to be drunk, and she will leave with a guy that she will not want to see again in the morning, just to avoid going home alone.

She is shallow and empty, with nothing but her flirting curves to offer.

Step 1

Once you have noticed that this girl is talking to your man, you can either go up to him with a drink and a kiss, look at her and say to your boyfriend, “Who’s your friend?” calmly without a threatening tone.

Or you can walk around and make eye contact with another guy just to get your boyfriend’s attention, but that’s just playing games which could end badly for both of you.

Saying hello and introducing yourself as the girlfriend to the other girl is the best option whilst regaining your boyfriend’s attention by excusing the two of you from her presence.

Whisper in his ear that you want to go home and make out or ask him to dance, and don’t leave them talking for too long.

Make it known that you have noticed her presence, introduce yourself as the girlfriend and get your boyfriend away by saying, “Well, it was nice to meet you; excuse us.”

Step 2

If your boyfriend is continuing to talk to the girl after you have whispered in his ear, then you need to just butt into the conversation and take over. After all, how much can she communicate? She will eventually be overpowered by you, and she will leave.

Step 3

If you have removed you and your boyfriend from the other girl’s presence and she returns again, then you need to calmly and jokingly tell your boyfriend that the stalker is starting to annoy you.

He will either suggest you both leave, or he will tell her that he would like to spend time with you.

If that doesn’t happen, then you need to tell the girl politely that you and your boyfriend would like to enjoy the night alone.

Step 4

By now, if she is back again, then you have succeeded in making her look like a stalker, but it still does not change the fact that she is after your man.

Find a hot guy and tell him that the other girl thinks he is hot and that she wants him to come over and talk to her.

Get his name and drag him over to the girl, introduce him to her and walk away.

Step 5

Now would probably be a good time to leave because she isn’t going to make your night pleasant, and if the other guy doesn’t work out, then she will be back to flirt with yours.

Once you leave the venue, forget about the girl – put her completely out of your mind, and enjoy the night with your boyfriend, knowing that he is going home with you.

Step 6

Wait until the next day to tell your boyfriend that you think that it is natural for a guy to look at a hot girl but that you do not appreciate that he couldn’t get rid of her and that he should understand that making eye contact with a girl like her is giving a signal that he is able to talk to her.

Explain to him that it made you feel uncomfortable and it felt awkward having a third wheel on your night out.

Ensure that you say this in a calm and nonchalant way so that he does not get the idea that you are jealous or angry.

Take Control of the Situation

Remember that you are hot, desirable and always keep your confidence when you are in that situation.

Do not feel threatened by another girl because all guys will look, but your boyfriend will go home with you.

Don’t appear jealous.

Keep your calm and make it known to the other girl that you are aware of her and that you do not care.

This way, you have won the situation, and your boyfriend thinks you are awesome because you did not freak out or cause a scene.

Have fun, be fun and in those situations, pretend that you are his friend and remind him that you are his one and only.

Questions & Answers

Question: What happens if they are trying to hold hands and they keep making faces at you, what would you do?

Answer: If you are referring to your boyfriend and a girl trying to hold his hand, you have to see if he is holding her hand. You are the girlfriend so go and grab your boyfriend, give him a long kiss and give her a wink and a smile.

Question: What happens when a girl that is flirting with your boyfriend moves in with him and won’t leave him alone at school? What do I do?

Answer: If she has moved in with your boyfriend then I think it’s safe to say that he is not with you anymore and it’s time to say goodbye to him.

Question: What is the comeback for when a girl tells your boyfriend he’s good looking?

Answer: Compliments are always welcome and as long as it’s just a harmless compliment, then there is no need for a comeback. You could walk up to him and kiss him, then turn to her and say, “I know”.


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